Your “A-Ha” Moment

“Until the pain of where you are becomes greater than the pain of changing…you will not change.” I’ve heard variations of that quote for years. I think it contains a wonderful and motivational truth.

This past week I received a request for an interview for an online forum of Biggest Loser fans. They sent the interview questions ahead of time and as I scanned over the 15 or so questions one jumped out at me due to its familiarity. So because I get asked the question so often, I thought it should become the topic of my blog this week.

That question is: “What was your ‘Aha Moment’—the moment that you knew you had to change?”

I’ve openly shared before that it wasn’t really just one moment, it was a series of things that led up to that defining “Aha.”

For example, I avoided my husband’s work functions like the plague for years because my appearance didn’t match that of the bridal portrait he had displayed on his desk at work and I was embarassed to face his co-workers.

I would send him into stores ahead of me to scope things out to make sure there was no one there I didn’t want to see.

And I would take my son to the pool at the end of the day when it was empty so no one would see me in my bathing suit. He’d splash around all alone in the water that had become chilled by lack of sunlight—simply because I was ashamed of myself.

I guess it was the impact my poor decisions regarding my diet and health were making on my child that led to the greatest “Aha.” I realized that the pain of staying just like I was was in fact greater than the pain it would take to change.

I couldn’t bear it any longer. Even if—at the time—I had a tough time loving myself enough, I did love that child infinitely. And I was willing to do whatever it took to make a better life for him. And that mindset translated into making a better marriage for me and my husband. And ultimately to living the victorious, empowered life God had intended for me.

I firmly believe God customizes His “help” in our greatest time of need. But I also believe He customizes our “trials” too. My battle with obesity brought me to the place of total surrender to Him. To the point where I begged Him for His help. And His timing intersected with His will and change became possible. I fully acknowledge that my “help,” which came in the form of a reality TV show, isn’t customary. But for me, in my life it’s what I needed.

And God will customize your help to meet your needs just as precisely as He did for me. But you must first be willing to change. And be willing to experience the pain that may go along with it. As with everything we go through in life, God doesn’t promise it will be easy. But He does promise we don’t have to go through it alone. He promises us in the book of Psalms that “He is an ever present help in time of need.”

So find your “Aha Moment” and depend on God to help you make the change and whatever you do, don’t let fear stop your progress.

About Julie Hadden

I'm Julie Hadden and for the past few years I've been on quite journey. My experience on Season 4 of "The Biggest Loser" resulted in a total transfomation in my life. What started out being about what I could "lose" turned more into what I "gained." God revealed great truths to me about the infinite WORTH we all possess in His eyes and I'm passionate about sharing what I learned through this process. View all posts by Julie Hadden

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